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Rekindling the Romance

Dear Acaricia May, sickness

My wife and I have been married for 9 years and to be honest the spark has kind of gone out of our marriage.  Between work and the kids, treatment we’ve both been really stressed lately. When it comes to our love life, try the get up and go has got up and left, if you know what I mean. What do you think I should do to get thing back on track?


Peter, Panjim

Dear Peter,


Follow these simple steps.

Speak lovingly to your beloved. Remember, love making begins well before the bedroom.

Do nice things for her, however small. Bring her breakfast in bed, a cup of tea, a bouquet of flowers.

Be physical. Hold hands. Hug. Look her in the eyes and smile.

Spend time alone together, away from the house and work. Perhaps a walk on the beach, or an evening out in a romantic restaurant.

Offer to give her a massage, and make it just a massage, at least for a very long time. Let anticipation build.

Light candles and put on soft music.

Make her laugh.

Express your boundless love.

Once you’ve done all of the above, the path to a hotter love life with your honey will be cleared. You see, Peter, we ladies are different from you fellows. We don’t turn on and off like a light switch. It takes time to get us in the mood, and for us there’s nothing like romance and affection to get us geared up for love making. I can assure you of one thing. Once your honey reaches this state, she will be on fire – and there will be no stopping her passion. Like so many other worthwhile things in life, keeping the fire alive in a marriage sometimes requires work. It’s worth it.


Acaricia May

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